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Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Hot Anger and Cold Anger

Hey, Angry People. Did you know that anger can be bad for you? No surprise, I suppose. A recent study has shown that one is more at risk for a heart attack or stroke or any other number of serious health problems for up to two hours after an angry outburst. I'm guessing that this doesn't mean when you raise your voice a little. I'm talking about a flat-out "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore" rampage of at least a few minutes or more.

Some people are more predisposed to anger than others. These are the people who really need to watch it, as the more outbursts you have the greater risk to your health...seventeen times greater, as a matter of fact. Wow.

Yeah, we should be angry about injustices in our time, but having a fit about it doesn't help anybody. Auntie Helen always used to remind us that "you'll catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." She was right.

These kind of outbursts are called hot anger. Cold anger is another thing altogether.

All anger comes out of not being able to control a situation or be in control of a situation. Cold anger is more of a passive-aggressive form of an angry outburst. Cold anger is when you refuse to speak to anyone for a day or even the rest of a lifetime. Cold anger is all about your inability to forgive.

Cold anger probably eats away at your soul or mind for a much longer period than hot anger. It can be just as damaging to your physical and mental health. The only thing we really can choose to do in this life is to forgive others and hope for forgiveness from others.

How many families won't have a relaxing holiday because of both of these types of anger? How many people will be subjected to hot and cold anger just today....or just this hour or minute?

A wise person told me that when you make a mistake or discover what you did got someone upset, apologize. Apologize once. You don't have to spend the rest of your life apologizing. Sometimes people are not willing to forgive. Forgetting is another matter than forgiving, too.

Learning how to deal with anger, both yours and another's, might be a great area to explore. Think about it.
Screamer Hot Head Sinister No No No


Blogger Matt Shaffer said...

I was working at Subway the other week when an elderly man wearing a WWII veterans cap came up to register and asked for some coffee. I smiled, took his 10 cents, grabbed an empty cup, and handed it to him saying "have a nice day." I was personally a little stressed out at the time, as I had just arrived at work and the store was in complete disarray from a very busy morning. There were dishes everywhere, countless loafs of bread had to be baked, and the general sentiment of the moment was one of chaos and confusion... But hey, it's Subway, the world isn't going to end, and by the end of the night I knew everything would be settled. Anyway, after I had handed the old man his coffee cup, he had gone over to the coffee machine to fill his cup, and I had gone to attend more of the dishes in the back. A few moments later I heard a whistle and turned around to see the same, seemingly innocent man, shaking his coffee cup and now donning an angry expression. I came back to the register, "Out of coffee?" I naturally assumed. After all, it was the middle of the day, and since few individuals desired coffee at the time, and it was such a busy morning, the coffee was simply never re-filled. "Yes!" he replied in a hushed shout. While certainly neither threatening nor even capable of much volume in his anger, the immediate switch in tone shocked me. "I'll have to make some more sir, it'll only be a minute." The old man continued in irritation and frustration "You better! I bet you guys are just goofing off back there!"
To get the point of the story across, the old man continued his irrational path of rage until he finally received his small cup of coffee, after railing against me a few more times. The situation saddened and perplexed me. Why do we sometimes latch on to such frivolous and seemingly temporary aspects of life in place of love, respect, and just common decency? The man was from an era where I thought these things were placed in the fore-front of everyday interaction, yet even he had either forgotten or had simply never learned what the important things in life really were. I don't want to judge this old man too harshly, as there could've been a number of other factors involved... Still, I was used to seeing the type of impatient and almost cruel behavior he had exhibited before... just not from someone like him. We must all certainly guard ourselves from anger, and realize that we will never be totally in control of a situation, and what is truly important in everyday life. Which is not groceries, amounts of change, video rentals, beating red lights, or even always getting the best possible grade we can on a test. It is about our interactions with those around us, those we love and those we don't even know... And we must always put love and people before our own, often petty, wants and circumstances.

15 November, 2006 23:43  
Blogger Tom Carten said...

I just wrote about this over at my place:

Title is:

I Want, I Gotta Have, I Need.

It distinguishes between the three and ends up with: Save being irate for times when it’s appropriate. Most of the time, just go along with the ride. Life’s a lot more fun when you roll with it, and you will be, too.

18 November, 2006 18:01  
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