Divorce Season
Well, it appears as if the divorce season has arrived upon us once again. I am in no way belittling the process, or the folks who must endure it. I'm simply commenting on how divorces seem to happen in bunches every year.
I've discussed the neighborhood here before, and I'm not about to divulge too much of anybody's personal information, so don't worry.
I saw these divorces coming from a long way away. Some marriages are both long term ones...one of them is twenty years long. People divulge the most private pieces of information to their friends and neighbors, so it's pretty easy to ascertain parts of the future if you listen carefully.
Some divorces are loud. One couple has two children and works opposite shifts, not an uncommon situation. In the morning, mom stands outside the house, almost in the street, YELLING ...not at the man she is angry with, but at their children. It's embarrassing. The poor kids. The dad is pretty much bumbling along. They live next to the dad's parents. I wonder how much their location had to do with the outcome of their marriage. Sometimes Everybody Loves Raymond doesn't work out so well in real life.
Another lady, her children grown, hired 1-800-Got-Junk to come and take all of His Things away. What bugs me about this is that the guy is blind...sometimes he retreats to his parents local home when things get rough. I wonder if he knows his stuff has been taken away? It's not like you can call the dump and say, oops...can I have that stuff back? This couple screams a lot and drinks a lot and fools around on each other a lot. They must think they are in Hollywood, when, in actuality, they are in Holly-Woe.
Some marriages dissolve more quietly, with ennui and desperation and fear. These are the ones that you are truly sad about when you hear about the problem. These are the folks who try to work it out, sometimes seeing counselors and actually trying to work on the relationship. Usually, these people respect each other a little too late. When children are involved, they come together civilly in the child's interest. Family and God play a role in the dissolution of this marriage because both of these concerns are considered carefully.
Some divorces just hang there and never happen. Strange. I find it odd to watch a married couple live apart...with live-in boyfriends and girlfriends who can be married to yet other people. How can you trust people like that? What kind of message is being sent to kids and society? Why get married in the first place if you don't honor your word? Maybe I just prefer the order of knowing what somebody's status is...get divorced, then engaged, then married...straighten out the mess you've created. Fear must rule these folks' lives...fear of the spouse, fear of the new relationship, fear of the finances, fear of who knows what else.
For better, for worse...
I've discussed the neighborhood here before, and I'm not about to divulge too much of anybody's personal information, so don't worry.
I saw these divorces coming from a long way away. Some marriages are both long term ones...one of them is twenty years long. People divulge the most private pieces of information to their friends and neighbors, so it's pretty easy to ascertain parts of the future if you listen carefully.
Some divorces are loud. One couple has two children and works opposite shifts, not an uncommon situation. In the morning, mom stands outside the house, almost in the street, YELLING ...not at the man she is angry with, but at their children. It's embarrassing. The poor kids. The dad is pretty much bumbling along. They live next to the dad's parents. I wonder how much their location had to do with the outcome of their marriage. Sometimes Everybody Loves Raymond doesn't work out so well in real life.
Another lady, her children grown, hired 1-800-Got-Junk to come and take all of His Things away. What bugs me about this is that the guy is blind...sometimes he retreats to his parents local home when things get rough. I wonder if he knows his stuff has been taken away? It's not like you can call the dump and say, oops...can I have that stuff back? This couple screams a lot and drinks a lot and fools around on each other a lot. They must think they are in Hollywood, when, in actuality, they are in Holly-Woe.
Some marriages dissolve more quietly, with ennui and desperation and fear. These are the ones that you are truly sad about when you hear about the problem. These are the folks who try to work it out, sometimes seeing counselors and actually trying to work on the relationship. Usually, these people respect each other a little too late. When children are involved, they come together civilly in the child's interest. Family and God play a role in the dissolution of this marriage because both of these concerns are considered carefully.
Some divorces just hang there and never happen. Strange. I find it odd to watch a married couple live apart...with live-in boyfriends and girlfriends who can be married to yet other people. How can you trust people like that? What kind of message is being sent to kids and society? Why get married in the first place if you don't honor your word? Maybe I just prefer the order of knowing what somebody's status is...get divorced, then engaged, then married...straighten out the mess you've created. Fear must rule these folks' lives...fear of the spouse, fear of the new relationship, fear of the finances, fear of who knows what else.
For better, for worse...
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